How Living Life to the Fullest Plants the Trouble Weed

The root of conflict between me and many healthcare professionals is planted by our differing perspectives. For a healthcare worker to be effective, much of their world revolves around the medical community. This is so they're aware of the newest assistive devices and wheelchairs, the latest clinical trials, the greatest treatment possibilities, as well as other beneficial tips that are "helpful" – at least in theory. Whereas for me, to effectively live my life to the fullest, I must continually remind myself that my physical impairment has only a small influence on everything I do.

This conflict, or root, grows into a thick troubled stem as a result. From my own perspective it's impractical to keep focusing on my disability and my wheelchair; whereas health care professionals make it their main concern. I understand that they wish to be helpful by checking up on their patient roster through routine visits and regular appointments. However, unless these appointments are regarding an actual health problem, I put very little value on them.

As far as I'm concerned, I can spend my time in plenty of other productive ways. For instance, I would much rather be playing an active role to improve my life, rather than focusing on what I can't do. So unless I require the expertise of a health care professional, I live by the "don't call me, I'll call you" rule. That is – I don't call them unless I need them, and I don't expect them to contact me either.

I rarely make concessions for my disability, and this my friends is where the troubled weed between me and healthcare professionals comes into full bloom. What I mean is, just because I consult a healthcare professional for some expertise, that doesn't always mean that I take their advice. I personally believe that there's a very fine line between a health-conscious decision and a health-consuming decision (one that requires undue sacrifice).

For example, I often choose to go swimming rather than to undergo an hour of passive physiotherapy every day. Another example would be that although a heavy-duty electric wheelchair was recommended to me for reasons of durability, I chose a lightweight travel wheelchair because it can be folded so I can commute with friends.

My choices suit my personal lifestyle. My primary goal is to improve my functional abilities so that I can accomplish everything I deem worthwhile. In doing this, I don't necessarily make time for my disability, or take advantage of all that the medical community perceives as "beneficial" to me. Hence the trouble weed between me and medical professionals continues to grow, and yes, some hate me indeed.

On that note, keep on rolling in the city.

~ Chantal