Finding a New Kind of Independence in 3 Steps

Complete physical independence has never been an option for me because I depend on a wheelchair to get around. However, there are notable differences between my reliant years and my satisfying independent years.

The differences are not due to the nature of my disability, nor with the length of time that I've been using an electric wheelchair. Rather, I attribute them to the process of integrating my current skills with the environment I had to work with. This process can be broken down into 3 steps and can be undertaken by just about anyone (not just those using wheelchairs). The end result is a concrete, evolving sense of independence.

My new kind of independence began with:

Testing my Abilities - This first stage requires sustained willpower, as well as using trial and error to push the limits of your abilities, regardless of if you use a wheelchair or not. For me this stage was frustrating, however it was well worth it because it enabled me to enhance the skills I had and it challenged me to become aware of the skills that I lacked. As you test your own abilities, don't be discouraged. Instead, gather confidence from the skills you possess so you can move onto step two…

Accepting Current Limitations - After you make a reasonable effort of challenging yourself, it's time to assess your real abilities. Get to know yourself by asking questions. For example what can you and can't you do alone? This will make you less surprised by struggles you face and allow for more independence. When you truly acknowledge the abilities you have - whether you're satisfied with them or not - remember that acknowledging your capabilities isn't necessarily a permanent resolution, it's simply a practical way to move on to the final and most important step…

Bridging the Gap - A new kind of independence will emerge when you can perform with confidence, and when you can predict your limitations and develop ways of accounting for them. By this, I don't mean you should take on the burden of always going the extra mile to prove yourself. Rather, I'm suggesting you explore the difference between what you can do independently and what you wish to accomplish. Learn to ask for help to achieve what you need or want. Also spend some time brainstorming other methods of accomplishing tasks that you struggle with. Remember, sometimes small obstacles are barriers to great things. You aren't dependent on someone else for everything, nor do you have to be entirely dependent on your own physical ability or your wheelchair. Your independence lies in your ability to orchestrate combinations of the two.

On that note, keep on rolling in the city.

~ Chantal